There are a number of debilitating words we have to watch out for. The first ones that come to my mind are”I Can’t”, “Why me?”, “I am just unlucky” and words like that.

We have to be very, very careful when we include them in our day-to-day vocabulary. I was on a business trip today in Chicago and while I was having breakfast, the news was covering the school stabbing yesterday (4/9/14). Non stop the news rattled off that 22 kids were stabbed and all I could think was that this is becoming a weekly occurrence.  It’s still early in the investigation but I wonder if it is yet another story about bullying or just another kid suffering from depression.

We simply have to do something for out kids. We have to step up and pull together and give them tools to deal with the pressures of life today. When I was growing up there wasn’t any social media, cell phones, smart phones, YouTube videos and ways to get information out quickly to the masses. I believe this makes it much harder for our kids than we were ever faced with. I can’t imagine what I would feel like if others posted hurtful, mean things about me via social networks back then.

I feel I had pretty high self-esteem but I never was tested the way the kids are today. So, instead of asking ourselves, “Why?” Let’s ask a different question, “How?”  As in, “How may I serve” or “What can I do to help.” Those are much more empowering words than “Why” because we probably will never, ever really understand what makes people do horrible things to others. I simply do not include “why” in my vocabulary any longer. If I accidentally say it, I usually immediately catch myself and change it on the spot.

Do you want to help kids build high self-esteem to combat the negative things they are bombarded with today? Do you want to make a difference? If you do, join me. Send me a direct email and we can collaborate together to see what comes up.

Together we CAN and WILL make a difference. Join me today!
With peace and gratitude,
Bill

 

stinkin-thinkin-stinks-bookAll winners from the STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS drawings have been notified via email.  They each have 7 days to confirm receipt of the winning email notification or new names will be drawn in their place.  After confirmation occurs with all the winners, I will post the names (initials) of each of the winners on my blog.  CONGRATULATIONS to all the winners!!!!

Thank you so very much for helping me get the book to be a best seller on both Amazon and Barnes and Noble.

With total gratitude,
Bill

I recently was asked to be a guest blogger for the Fairy God Blogger and was happy to do so.  She is incredible and I was honored to be asked to participate.  Below is the first part of my post and then you can click over to her site to read the full blog!

Guest Blog:

Bill King
writer, parent, stink expert

How do you engage kids and their parents with your book?
Humor.  Next question?  Seriously, I have discovered that kids, and most of us for that matter, tend to be more engaged when the topic is relevant and provides a bit of humor.

Let’s get real, we all suffer from negative thinking, and there’s nothing that can be done to eliminate it completely.  Humor and relevancy are the keys to keeping a book in hands versus garbage cans.  Keeping kids engaged isn’t an easy task when writing non-fiction, that’s for sure. However, when done properly, it can actually be quite transformational for both child and parent.

Click here to checkout the full blog post and a bit of wisdom from the Fairy God Blogger.

With gratitude,
Bill

stinkin-thinkin-stinks-bookI have seen a number of book reviews on my latest book, STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS, and have been amazed with the incredible information provided.  I saw this one yesterday and it literally blew me away.  A-MAZ-ING!  It included pictures of her kids reading the book but more importantly how they are using this book.  I wrote the book to provide tips and tools while acting as a resource for parents to work with their kids.  This review absolutely nails that so I thought I would share it with you.  Click here to read this incredible, awesome review by Barb Webb!  Thank you Barb!  You certainly don’t STINK!

With peace and gratitude,
Bill

stinkin_thinkin_book-coverToday marks the official launch of my newest book STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS.  I humbly ask you support me in helping kids become aware of, understand, and focus their thoughts. 

My goal is to have a positive impact on the lives of 1 million people by October 29, 2014, whether it is through the book, in workshops, during radio or TV interviews, or simply because you shared this blog post with your friends.  Can help me reach this sporty goal in whatever way you feel is right for you?

The challenges young people face today are absolutely unbearable, and I know this book can help kids find a more positive way to live life. After reading that the third leading cause of death among 10-14 year olds is suicide, I had to do something to help.

STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS, now available on Amazon.com and BarnesandNoble.com, is full of fun activities designed to provide kids with real tools for changing negative habits. 

STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS will have kids rolling with laughter as they use the term “STINK Eye” to refer to seeing things worse than they really are, “STINK Bait” to refer to being so negative that other negative people want to hang around you, and “STINK Breath” to mean using negatively-charged language.  The exercises are easy and accessible and use materials any parent could get, such as Tic Tacs, index cards, poster board, markers, a great imagination. 

What do you think of the back cover of STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS: A Kid’s Guide to the Lighter Side of Life?  Pretty nifty, huh?  You might think that this is a bit odd name compared to other books on positive thinking, but I think it’s STINKIN’ cool!

With peace and gratitude,
Bill

Back Cover Text

What would happen if Negative Thoughts  and Actions smelled bad?  If they STANK?  Would we notice them more?  Would we be less inclined to indulge in them?

Attributing bad smells to our various negative thoughts, actions, and attitudes, In STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS Bill King provides both young readers and their older friends with techniques to recognize, deal with, and mitigate the negativity that holds so many of us back.  Readers will:

  • Become aware of negative thought patterns
    ·         Discover ways to eliminate negative thinking
    ·         Learn how to avoid negative pack mentality
    ·         Access the positive in life
    ·         Develop techniques for dealing with negative people and situations
    ·         Embrace positivity as the dominant way of thinking

Full of fun activities designed to provide kids with real tools for changing negative habits, STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS     offers a fun new approach to exterminating negativity while inviting YOU to change YOUR LIFE!  STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS will inspire discussion, introspection, and change in all ages of readers.

IDS_Stickers_cardWe WANT you!  Calling all writers and bloggers.  Here is your opportunity to get exposure while also making a positive difference in the world!  I believe that my new book, STINKIN’ THININ’ STINKS is one of the most powerful positive thinking books for kids ever written.  It is fun, entertaining yet provides real exercises that they will actually use.

Go to http://idontstink.com/authors_wanted/ to read more about what the book is about and how YOU can get involved.

With peace and gratitude,
Bill

I am very excited to say that yesterday I placed the advanced order for my new book, STINKIN’ stinkin_thinkin_book-coverTHINKIN’ STINKS: A Kid’s Guide to the Lighter Side of Life.  I received the first hardcopy and made a few minor changes and now we are ready to go! SaWEET!  Release date is October 29, 2013!

This has been quite a long project for me.  It is actually the longest project I have ever worked on, by far.  I would like to invite you to help me get the word our on October 29, 2013.  Check out http://idontstink.com/authors_wanted/ to see how you can help me.  We CAN and WILL have a positive impact on the lives of lots of people.  Thank you, thank you, thank you!

While this may not be considered specifically one of the books on bullying, it does provide tools and technique to help deal with it.  It also does address a few forms of bullying.  For more information about bullying, click on the “Bullying STINKS” barrel on the left side of the page.

With total gratitude,
Bill

 

Here is the final portion of Chapter 5 How to Avoid Catching the STINK EYE from my new book STINKIN’ THINKIN’ STINKS!  Plan on spending the rest of the weekend working through the rest of the exercise.  Send me feedback or post a comment on Facebook, Twitter or email.
With peace and gratitude,
Bill King

Day 4: Repeat Day 3 exercise using a new card.

Day 5: Repeat Day 3 exercise again using a new card.

Day 6:
  Get the sixth index card and write “Like” on one side and “Don’t Like” on the other.  Your job today is to write down the things you notice that you like on the “Like” side of the card, and write the things you see that aren’t pleasing to you on the “Don’t Like” side of the card.  Today, don’t put on your cool shades.  Try this exercise for thirty minutes.  

Day 7: Repeat Day 6 exercise, but this time put on the cool shades for the entire exercise.

 Expected Results 
By Day 7, you’ll probably write more things on the “Like” side of the index card than on the “Don’t Like” side.  That’s great!  From now on, when you use the cool shades, you’ll find yourself looking for things you like more quickly¾and you will find more things that you like.  This is due to the programming of your mind during the third through fifth days.  Cool shades are amazing, aren’t they? 

 Tips for a Successful Exercise

  • Go to different places each of day. 
  • Keep an upbeat attitude.
  • Don’t judge what you don’t like, just notice it and write it down.
  • Expect that you will see more positive things than negative.
  • Focus on the good for days three through seven.

 The STINKIN’ Summary

  • STINK Eyes distort what you see and inject negativity.
  • Become aware of how you look at things.
  • STINK Eyes are very contagious.
  • Having a STINK eye is a choice.
  • Cools shades will help you see what you like.

STINK eyes typically take perfectly harmless situations and make them appear negative.  Everything appears worse than it really is.  Avoid catching the STINK eye at all costs.

Today is day 2 and 3 of the Cool Shades for STINK Eyes exercise.  There will be another post on Thursday so please come back!

Day 2: Repeat Day 1 exercise using a new card.

Day 3: Get one index card and a pen or pencil and start looking around.  Put your cool shades on as you do this.  This time, notice all the things that you like, that make you feel good, or that put a smile on your face.  Do this for 15 minutes.  For example, if you see a nice, clean cut backyard, write “yard.”  If you see a friend, write your friend’s first name.  If you see your new game system, write the system’s name.  Continue to write things you see that provoke positive thoughts during the short 15 minute exercise.

That’s it for today folks.  Please leave comments if you like as you work through the exercises.
With peace and gratitude,
Bill